Wednesday, December 20, 2017

A Letter to Myself (And Anyone Who Needs It)

Hey, there.

I am taking this moment of clarity, when the anxiety and depression have subsided, to remind you.

There are good things in the world.

You are one of them.

You are not a burden, or a monster, or overly needy or clingy.  YES, you need attention.  That's okay.  Humans are social creatures and, regardless of your thoughts about being human, that's what you are right now.

You give as much as you take.  You give MORE than you take, even.  There have been times when you have damaged your own health, both mental and physical, in order to help other people.  You shy away from asking for help.
Don't shy away.  You are surrounded by people who love you, regardless of your thoughts on how worthy you are of that love.  They will help you.

You are not bad.

You are not wrong.

There is hope in the world.

You've finally seen it.

It doesn't get better, but it doesn't get worse, either.  There is light points, high points, and pits of deep despair.  You have hit rock bottom before.  You will hit it again.

You will also walk on air, be madly in love, and get almost everything you want.

The universe is not capricious or cruel.  You are someone who is here, now, and that matters.  That counts for something.  That is so much more than random chance; that is generations building up to the you.

You do not need to follow the lines society sets before you.  You do not have to pretend to have adult interests or do anything that people expect.  People will stare.  People will judge.

But with all that judgment there will also be people like you, who know what it's like, and who aren't afraid to admit that, well, okay, they don't follow society's expectations either.

You exist in this moment for a reason.  Now is the only time the world - nay, the universe - can have you.  It has been waiting for you for so long.  There are people who need to meet you.  Some of them have.  Some of them are still waiting for the exact blend of personality and interests and talents that is you.

There are other people who like to read, who are good at writing, who are kind, who are stubborn.  But none of them are exactly that in exactly your way.  There have been so many people that have come before you, and only you can be you.

You are waiting for the opportunity, and the opportunity is waiting for you.  It is hard, now.  And it will be hard, later.  You know it was hard, then.  But even though it's hard, there are times when it will be easy.  You will find the good.  You will find the happy.

Take a deep breath.

You're not alone, but you are unique.  You are more than chance.

And if you ever find that you get too tired, that's okay.

You haven't lost the battle.

You did what you needed to do.

Just believe in yourself.  Believe in your friends.  Believe in all the love in the world and have, just for a little longer, a little bit of faith in humanity.

You've made it this far.

What's one day more?

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Monday, December 4, 2017

I don't touch my blog in a while, and I find spam comments.

I find spam comments on posts idolizing suicide.

jeez, spam bots.  no tact.

Let me fix this.

Sunday, June 18, 2017

the emptiness is so big that it is suffocating me. if i had some way to kill myself here, i would.

i am alone and i am tired of the lies people tell me and i tell myself.

it does not get better.

i am sorry they lied to you.

I see now that I only ever had two options.

Have a relationship with the people who raised me and who - were, are - supposed to love me unconditionally, or suffer and burn and hold everything in.

I am tired of pretending. I am tired of faking.

I am tired.

Friday, April 14, 2017


You can live well
Or live in hell;
It's a subjective truth.
You can find joy wherever you are,
Or else bemoan your lack of youth.

You can find happiness in stormy weather,
And lift yourself up light as a feather;
Else you can find stormy weather in joyous event,
And find yourself regretting every choice,
And never living in the moment.

Optimism is a choice you make;
Or else a chance you take.
And while it is no cure for sadness,
You'll find yourself more predisposed
To the ever-elusive happiness.

Sunday, March 19, 2017

Quiet and Dark

I like when it is early in the morning.

Two, three, four AM.

Nobody is up. It is quiet.

The house is dark.

There is no-one on Facebook.

There is no-one to talk to. No posts demanding my attention. No chores I need to do.

The animals are asleep. The only light is my phone, alarm clock, computer.

Sometimes I'm on my phone.

Sometimes I just sit there and embrace the silence.

There is just something about such a time.

When I have nothing to do, nothing that needs to be done.

Sometimes, people are awake.

And we chat.

We say things too scary and too big to say in daylight. We whisper words across a screen, talking about our day. Things we don't usually think about. Philosophy.

I like these times.

When nobody else is awake, when everything is still and quiet.

I like the times when I'm camping, or staying in a hotel or at a sleepover.

I wake up a lot. I hear the other people breathing.

I see the stars.

I close my eyes.

I wake up, and when I've waken up for the eighth or ninth or tenth time, I slide on shoes and creep across and over everyone, outside, and watch the sunrise.

I like the quiet times.

Whether at home or not, there is something about these times when I can't or won't sleep.

Something beautiful, special, sacred.

It is quiet, and it is dark.

So I write.

Tuesday, February 7, 2017


You're either an optimist or a pessimist
and that's how you'll see the world.
Cuz no, it never gets better -
but it doesn't exactly get worse.
For every step forward we take exactly one step back.
It's a tug-of-war with no clear winner to deduce.

For every act of compassion, every selfless soul,
There's another act of hatred waiting behind the door.
For every day of happiness there's one of misery;
For every ache you'll realize how strong you really are.

You're either an optimist or a pessimist,
and that decides if the world is dark or light.
Nothing really changes except what's in and out of sight.
And all the phrases in the world
can't fix your broken heart.

For every smile there's a frown,
For every life there's a death,
For every rainbow colored melody
There's another reason to fret.

You're either an optimist or a pessimist,
and that's how you see the world.
If you see only the doubt you'll think it's getting worse,
but for the light you'll be alright,
and it's better this time around.

Seems it's all at stalemate, with no winner.
Seems it's all the same, nothing worse or better.
Any belief that we've improved
can be met with its opposite,
and truth is neither are correct.

You're either an optimist or a pessimist,
and that's how I see the world.
Two black and white, two wrong and right,
two sides of the same silver coin.
Where good exists, so does bad,
and neither one can win.

You're either an optimist or a pessimist,
it's the wolf that you feed.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Nostalgia and The Doll Palace

I am twenty years old, which means I am old enough to have nostalgia for the "old internet" but still too young to truly understand what the "old internet" was.

I have always loved dress up games, and in loving them I found a few precious sites.  The Doll Palace. .  Websites I used very early, always finding the same games again and again, always excited to see a new one and determine quickly whether or not I liked it.

I found The Doll Palace in probably 2007, two years past its heyday but one year before its death.  The short-lived editorial section was new, but I didn't know that.

Like everyone, I crafted dolls.  I couldn't find the 'av chat', didn't know how to access it with anything other than (yuck) premade dolls.  Premium was a lost cause for me; I never displayed interest in it, as I had only ever been interested in buying Toontown's membership or Neopet's premium.

But I quickly found "Dolls and Stories".  As a writer, I wrote.  I added my own tales to the collection that was there.  Poetry, too, and short stories.  As Unistray208, at the time.

As always, I left.  As always, I returned.

But by the time I returned it was 2009 or 2010; the Doll Palace was dead.  The mysterious webmistress, Jessica, had disappeared.  I still didn't figure out the Avatar Chat, but I quickly went back to the Dolls and Stories.

That section of the Doll Palace, so rarely untouched by anyone but prolific, passionate writers (as I'd like to consider myself) I imagine was active until the very end.

Now my account was Ilyria, or something akin to it.  I crafted a tale of a mermaid in the deep-sea, protecting aquatic creatures considered extinct.  Trilobites, I remember specifically mentioning, because I had just learned about them in one science class or another.

I wrote a short story series about a girl 'moonstruck', because in her world stars didn't exist.  It was decent, though years later once I made my next return I would cringe at it.

I escaped the constraints of her, when I came back in 2013, 2014.  I became Kunabee.  And, as always, the Dolls and Stories section was active.  This time however, there wasn't a flood of stories.  There was a small group of regular writers, good friends who had had their friendships formed on The Doll Palace.  I was 'Kunabee Sakura Tiger', my full online name, formed from years of playing on the internet with people and my many name changes.

I wrote, as I always do, and I was welcomed into the fold of less than ten people.  I have vague memories of them, I can form their individual personalities in my mind when put to the task, but I can't remember the specific number or usernames or what, exactly, they wrote (beyond the one-time theme we all participated in, where we all talked with our characters).

This round I found the avatar chat, and I sat in it, alone, with something other than a premade avatar.  I explored, I looked, poking around.  Before it had always been busy; now it was curiously empty.

But the Dolls and Stories was where I belonged.

Some clever, crazy girl who had assigned everyone last names dubbed me 'McKangaroo', and until mid to late 2016 I added it as a second last name before at last shedding it.  I remember deciding "you know what, Kunabee Sakura Tiger McKangaroo is just too much".

I wrote, and they wrote, and it was good and fun.

But like always, I disappeared.

Today, nostalgia overcame me.  I opened to be greeted by a "the doll palace is undergoing daily maintenance, please wait a few minutes."

Excitement rushed through me.  Was Jessica at last returned?  Was the site getting an update?  So I waited.  And then rationality returned.  Had The Doll Palace at last closed its doors?  After eight years of sitting, untouched, allowing us few nostalgic folks to return to play with the dollmakers, Google declared it has.

But Google also allowed me a portal;, the last update in 2005, but owned by the Doll Palace.  With the same makers.  No Dolls and Stories, and garish coloration, but makers that can give me the brief feeling I had in the Doll Palace.  The first sense of community I felt, WE felt, but unable to relive.

Now, of course, newer, brighter doll makers have come into play. has gotten an update as of a couple of years ago, one I personally do not like, but it still lives.  Dolldivine has the community that The Doll Palace once had, yet its community is only reachable if you pay the two dollars for two years pricing (which I do).  In this community I see young girls reaching out, making dolls.  Thirteen and fourteen year olds - and in some cases, those as young as ten - making dolls.  Better than anything we made at thirteen and fourteen in the doll palace, and some who are just as bad as we were.  And then older girls, girls who I could even call 'women' - Olga, the mistress of Dolldivine is a mother - making fantastic art, observing the younger folks of dolldivine like guardians., where Azalea works closely with Olga and who has made dress up games with her, yet her website doesn't afford the sense of community that dolldivine does. with her manga makers, created by her and another: PrinceofRedRoses these days, though Mileysknight for the first one, and for four pages (never to be complete) of a second one.

One wonders if the community built up with the Doll Palace is now for the elite, a paradigm shift from social communication being free to paid; but Neopets still exists, and last I checked (less than a year ago, more than six months ago) Neopets still has a community that's shifting.  For two or three years its roleplaying boards were dead, mostly silent, updated with a bump every three or four days, but now they have returned.  Gifted and gifted school roleplays don't rule them, but they have a new stereotype, and there are 'literates' versus 'illiterates' once more.

I hold out a hope, that old friends will find me.  In my old Unistray208 accounts I do everything I can to leave a trail to Kunabee.  And, of course, I'm Kunabee.  Simply googling the name will lead you, ultimately, to a website or two I'm still active with.

But there is nothing like the old days, and in many ways I hope I am not found.  Believing that my old friends have had and found happiness, have created beautiful, brilliant lives for themselves, have grown up and danced away but always kept that same, basic sense of wonder - it's a sweet belief.

Still.  I leave the trail, the breadcrumbs, and keep the hope while I hope from one website to another, while I find my niche of These Are Where I Go, where I disappear for months only to return much later.  My habits are still much the same.

Habbo Hotel is still up, and still active, with updates both good and bad.  Neopets exists, as does Furcadia.  Old websites, places that are always changing and yet never change very much.  The same stereotypes will always return; new pre-teens and young teens will come with their 'lol random' and emo phases and grow out of it, shaking off the old as they adjust and redefine and discover new labels that fit them better.

The greatest hope I have is that they have the time I did.  That new roleplayers have their Mary Sues and then learn why the older roleplayers they so admire don't like them.  That their pre-teen and young teen selves will slowly grow and change and realize as they redefine and reorient.  That they will find some place, some group of people, to call their internet "home" and even when they grow so far away the distance seems irreparable, they will once more reach out and connect and hold the tenuous threads of family.

That one day, when they're twenty and twenty-one and twenty-five and even thirty, they'll be writing what it was like in their own version of the "old internet" and be filled with nostalgia and yet, that small, precious, pristine hope for the new, that they see their own paradigm shifts and are absolutely amazed by the human condition and the fact that, for all their differences, people are still terribly, terribly the same.

Sunday, January 8, 2017


the urge to be happy is buried deep, but there,
and even when darkness surrounds you light has a say.
suddenly, happiness! joy! when everything seems lost.
you're not alone, there's two you know.

such a small thing can a flower grow,
and though delicate, it's more than enough.
patience has our fingers crossed
when it's compassion there isn't a cost.

sunshine can be found in stormy weather,
when the blizzards and hurricanes toss you under.
take a deep breath and make life your own,
oh, harder to do than it is to say i know.

hope is hard to tamp down and hide away,
the heart may be broken but it's here to stay,
when you're doubting and lost there's still a way,
a door or a window or even a hole to escape.

to guard life few things are needed:
shelter, water, food, and friendship.
when given love a soul will blossom,
you're not alone, there's two you know.

when it's compassion there isn't a cost,
and never ever is all hope lost,
you can find happiness in the darkest of days,
it just takes a lot of patience and a little bit of grace.

Saturday, January 7, 2017

the human heart

the human heart can love many people at once.
experience has taught me that love doesn't gather dust.

the human heart doesn't know jealousy the same way as the mind,
and success and failure just depend on whether you've won or lost.

the human heart is where all the hope exists,
and when it's too broken despair's all that's left.

the human heart doesn't understand about giving up,
it'll keep trying when the mind has said 'no more'.

the human heart beats in a certain rhythm
that's too easily thrown off.

the human heart has a voice of its own.

a body is just blood and skin and bones
and a heart that beats to separate you from stone.

the human heart is weak and tired and small
and contained by a rib cage that's too tall.

The Same Circling Questions

I know I haven't been writing enough
But the words have stalled.
I'm mourning something but I can't remember what.

I'd rather date an idea,
Makes it easier to live,
And daydreams don't break.

I've been counting my glasses,
And whether they're half-empty or half-full.
I'm beginning to realize they're all broken on the ground.

I'm not sure if my luck is good or bad,
If the timing is wrong or just a little late,
If I'm counting the wrong things and have been this whole time.

I know I haven't been writing enough,
All my goals have fallen flat.
I can't get enough out.

I'm locked in a prison but I'm pretty sure it's mine.
Success is an illusion and happiness will fall,
I'll count my lucky stars that I can still breathe.

My heart's heavy with too much weight
I've said I won't let it break me,
But God, I'm still so afraid.

What if I just make the same mistakes of the past?
What if it doesn't work out, if nothing's okay?
I want to go back, but I've never been 'fine'.

I've been counting the tears
That fall from my eyes.
Silently waiting in a pointless disguise.

If I was okay do you think I would write?
Or would I give up the poems and metaphors instead?

She Wrote Me a Melody

Everyone is still in shock
She wrote me a melody but it isn't worth much.
Why do I fall in love so fast?
Love isn't even so it can't last.

Why are so many stories the same?
Because breath is universal and winter is dark.
It's pointless wishing for summer to last.
I'm still hung up; can't get over the past.

If I whisper a secret phrase
Will it somehow free me from this cage?
All is well; this too shall pass,
This is hell; I'll come in last.

She wrote me a melody but it isn't worth much.